One thing newly retired people can sometimes find hard to come to terms with is the amount of free time they suddenly have on their hands. Suddenly going from a structured busy work day to a day where you have to find something to fill the time can be quite a culture shock. Sure you can do the gardening, or get round at last to doing all those odd jobs in the home, but these tasks won't last for ever, and the weather especially in winter will curb the time you can spend in the garden.If you are on your own the social aspect of work can be missed. Interaction with other people if you are at home all day can sometimes be difficult.
A good way to get out and about socialise and meet people is to join a club. You may already have a hobby or interest, so why not join a club to meet other people with the same interests. You may only want to have an opportunity to meet people and have a chat, but whatever you want to do there's probably a club somewhere that will cater for your needs.
Finding a Club
A good place to start is your local library. They normally have lots of leaflets or advertisements for local clubs and activities. You could look in the telephone directory, yellow pages or your local directory; there are many clubs and associations listed. Look at the ads in your local supermarket, or the local newspaper many clubs advertise meetings and most welcome new members.
What Kind of Clubs Are There?
There are many different types of clubs out there. Some clubs meet daily, others once or twice a week, others only monthly. Let's have a look at some ideas:
Lunch Clubs - Lunch clubs meet once or twice a week and are held at places where you can pop in and have a light meal, a cup of tea and a chat. The session normally lasts 3-4 hours and a small payment is usually charged for the meal. It's a nice way to spend some time and meet some old and new friends.
Drop-in Club - Held one or two days a week in local community centres all over the country, drop-in clubs offer tea, a chat and usually some activities. The good thing about a club like this is you can come and go as you please, as they are normally open from around 10am till 4pm.
Local Community OAP Clubs - These clubs normally hold weekly get-togethers. A fee per meeting or a subscription fee is usually charged. Here entertainment of some sort is usually provided. A guest speaker, musical acts or other forms of entertainment regularly perform, with audience participation usually welcome. It's common for an afternoon tea to be provided at this type of club.
If you have a hobby, want to keep fit, or would like to take up a new skill or pastime the opportunities are limitless. Listed below are some ideas:
Seniors Swimming - most pools have sessions run exclusively for older people. Most also provide lessons if you want to learn or improve your swimming.
Local History Groups - Many have ongoing projects looking into and discovering interesting facts about social history in the area. Many have guest speakers who provide great insight into the history of the local communities.
Writing groups - The local library normally has details of local writing groups and when they meet.
Rambling/Walking - If you are reasonably fit and enjoy the fresh air there's nothing better than getting out for a walk in the countryside. It's a great way to get to know your area and is a good way to meet new people.
Photography - Many community centres and local schools have photography classes where you can hone old skills and learn lots of new ones too.
Other activities and clubs to consider include:
Arts and crafts
You should also consider looking at what your local schools and colleges offer in the way of adult learning classes. There is normally a whole host of classes, offering you the chance to take part in activities and develop new skills. No matter your age or physical ability get out there and find something that's suitable for you - you're never too old to learn something new or take up anew challenge.
I've moved to Polesworth Tamworth I'm finding it difficult to locate any over 50's clubs/classes etc to join and make new friends has anyone any info please. Thank you Christine
Chrissie - 14-Apr-17 @ 6:22 PM
Jan - Your Question:
Hi. I am 72. I live alone but spend most time with my younger sister aged 62. We had so many interest, fun, meals out and adventures but she died suddenly of sepsis pheumonia before Christmas. I feel lost and lonely now. Is there anyone in Matlock area who would like to join me. I have a car. I like craft fairs, trips out, meals out and other.
Hi. Iam 72. I live alone but spend most time with my younger sister aged 62. We had so many interest, fun, meals out and adventures but she died suddenly of sepsis pheumonia before Christmas. I feel lost and lonely now. Is there anyone in Matlock area who would like to join me. I have a car. I like craft fairs, trips out, meals out and other.
Jan - 30-Mar-17 @ 10:11 AM
Hypericum - Your Question:
I am hoping to meet like-minded people for chatting online. I am thinking of the time when I will be retired and am wondering how I would cope with the isolation especially in the Winter months. I am a teacher and I live in Berkshire. My husband is still at work and my children live some distance away from me so I sometimes feel there is no one to talk to when all you want to do is get something off your chest! I would love to hear from you and to hearing all your experiences of life after retirement. Many thanks.
I am hoping to meet like-minded people for chatting online. I am thinking of the time when I will be retired and am wondering how I would cope with the isolation especially in the Winter months.I am a teacher and I live in Berkshire.My husband is still at work and my children live some distance away from me so I sometimes feel there is no one to talk to when all you want to do is get something off your chest!I would love to hear from you and to hearing all your experiences of life after retirement.Many thanks.
Hypericum - 28-Feb-17 @ 4:15 PM
To whom it may concern...
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therefore i reach out to you for help in searching for this man within your ranks in hope and in prayer that someone ,somewhere must know this gentleman...Im now almost 62 yrs of age, of sound mind and in good health. If this message was circulated throughout organisations of the elderly community i would stand i better chance...Thank you for your time and understanding..Regards Mr Jeff Evans..
JOX - 14-Feb-17 @ 1:54 PM
Dotti - Your Question:
I have been reading some of the enquiries and replies. You do not suggest joining the U.3.A!wherever you live in the UK there will probably be a branch. The U.3.A cater for a wide range of interests and social activities. A life changing experience for retired people, a chance to learn a new skill, interest or to share your own skills while making new friends. As a member I can thoroughly recommend the U.3.A to your readers
Thank you for sharing that information
RetirementExpert - 13-Feb-17 @ 2:38 PM
I have been reading some of the enquiries and replies.You do not suggest joining the U.3.A!
wherever you live in the UK there will probably be a branch.The U.3.A cater for a wide range of interests and social activities.A life changing experience for retired people, a chance to learn a new skill, interest or to share your own skills while making new friends.As a member I can thoroughly recommend the U.3.A to your readers
Dotti - 12-Feb-17 @ 12:57 PM
I'm looking for something for my mum
she listed her husband from cancer
plz email if there is a lady club like sewing knitting to get out or once a week walk around a park and coffee after thank you
sam - 2-Feb-17 @ 4:27 PM
b's mum - Your Question:
I am 64 years old and lost my husband in 2014. I sufferfrom fibromyalgia and osteoarthritis to name a few things. I am looking for friendship and groups I could go to to meet new people in the chesterfield, derbyshire area. Nobody seems to know or care how lonely it is!
I am 64 years old and lost my husband in 2014. I sufferfrom fibromyalgia and osteoarthritis to name a few things. I am looking for friendship and groups i could go to to meet new people in the chesterfield, derbyshire area. Nobody seems to know or care how lonely it is!
b's mum - 7-Jan-17 @ 6:28 PM
I'm looking on here but I hav not seen envy clubs in the Liverpool Knowsley area
Kate - 5-Jan-17 @ 9:06 AM
I am 69 I lost my husband 4 months ago to COPD I need to get back in the community I
Have applied for voluntary work. I like to go traveling especially cruising I enjoy dancing and gardening would like to join some social clubs .I live in Peterborough
Wendy - 30-Oct-16 @ 8:48 PM
My mom is 65 years old and likes to travel. But she does not want to travel alone or with people she doesnot know. Is there any club that manages tours for wellness and healthy stays proper for seniors?
Thanks a lot,
Angel - 26-Oct-16 @ 4:27 PM
Hello, we offer a whole range of events for the community within our Bupa Care homes, these range from Lunch Clubs, coffee mornings, pamper days, live entertainment etc.We are actively involved in combating loneliness and isolation within our community's so why not give me a caell to see what we have going on in your area of London and the east of England on 0808 301 7770 thank you.
Kendra - 25-Oct-16 @ 12:38 PM
shaz - Your Question:
My mum is 65 ( in swanley ) she lost her husband 6 months ago to cancer.She needs some clubs / activities to help her get out and meet people.If there are any clubs / groups in and around swanley could you please give time and places. Thanku Sharon
Here are a few suggestions: The Big Sing Yoga The Womens' Institute
* Swanley / Hextable Book Club- Held the first Tuesday of each month at Thanks A Latte coffee shop! Contact: Bernice Giggins 01322837004
* Hephzibah Quilt Club - Patch and Mix Crafts based in Swanley run a free crafts club at Elim Christian Centre on the 3rd Tuesday of every month between 1900hrs and 2100hrs. All are welcome. Individual/group tuition on quilt making and general sewing is also available.
Contact: Titi07947643261 or 01322619012
* Bexley Ladies PROBUS Club- Friendly and informal Lunch club for retired ladies. We meet for lunch on the first Wednesday of each month at the VCD Club in Old Rd, Crayford. Guest speakers give a variety of talks after lunch. We also have several organised outings to places of interest each year. Contact: Trish Henty 07745871723
RetirementExpert - 20-Sep-16 @ 1:59 PM
My mum is 65 ( in swanley ) she lost her husband 6 months ago to cancer .
She needs some clubs / activities to help her get out and meet people ..
If there are any clubs / groups in and around swanley could you please give time and places ..
shaz - 18-Sep-16 @ 10:22 PM
Hi am looking for groups in Sittingbourne area.I am 67 and not ready for slippers thanks very much! I like walking visiting places of interest and lunches out.I also like reading and holidays.I would like to meet some new people to maybe meet for a coffee and go out for days etc be nice to have some fresh faces and chat about the world and life in general.
Dee - 4-Sep-16 @ 5:24 PM
Hi, as a singing entertainer in and around Southend Essex, I have the pleasure of meeting seniors at their clubs, societies, care homes, day centres etc. etc. and always find them a joy to be with. Usually I'm at these places to give an hours song, sometimes with good rousing sing-a-longs where I'm made very welcome. So if you are still browsing which group to join, just get into one and you'll soon find they are great fun.
TQM-Southend - 24-Aug-16 @ 5:29 PM
Karen, I know exactly how you feel. I am 69 with a severe hearing loss and I find there is nothing available to people in my situation. If you try to get involved in a Club you end up isolated as you cannot pick up what is being said.
Gina - 12-Aug-16 @ 8:30 PM
I am 72 years old lost my husband through cancer.Still was working caring for my two sons.Seen to their welfare, help them get their home and they both are married have their own family.I see them time to time also grand children.They have no clue how isolated I feel as I can't share my feeling with them.I am looking to make new friend in my area don't know how or where to look for.I am hard at hearing so that restrict getting involve with group of people as I can't hear conversation which make it hard.
Karen - 10-Aug-16 @ 8:59 PM
Hi I am a 66 year old married woman, I am looking for clubs where I can make some friends, my husband has his own interests, going to the football also koi keeping. I enjoy crafting, baking, cooking, reading books and going out for lunch, I would like to join clubs with a view to meet and make friends with ladies of a similar age and interests. I live in the Bonymaen area (east side) of Swansea. lillypat
lillypat - 8-Jul-16 @ 12:31 AM
Hi same old story I'm afraid , in my 70 's b it feel 50Not ready for slippers and bingo yet, after losing my wonderful husband , having a family who although say they love me , have their own livesto live and not much time for me, therefore lonely and missing the busy life we ledDancing , caravanning Holidays ,butnow the home is so empty . need a friend and someone to talk to Sorry for sad story but I'm sure there others who feel as I doIris
Shkira - 30-Jun-16 @ 1:36 PM
Hi I have just opened a new shop within Dagfields crafts and antiques near Nantwich Cheshire. It's called Jayelle butterfly crafts. It's a lovely place to wonder around all day. My shop sells various items such as radiator covers, glass ware,pottery,sewn gifts and furniture. The whole centre is open 10 till 5 , 7 days a week. There are cafés and public conveniences. So you can spend the majority of the day.
I look forward to seeing you.
Jenny - 10-Jun-16 @ 4:06 PM
For those on any kind of government allowances can I bring your attention to a talk I have just attended by the local CAB. This was given to pensioners in a sheltered housing complex advising most of the inhabitants how to claim their rightful benefits as £5 billion is unclaimed every year. In particular, for those in receipt of Housing and other benefits, the new rules for "leave of absence"have been slashed from 13 weeks down to 4 weeks.
So rather than encourage pensioners to get out and about and stay active, if they want to leave their homes for more than 4 weeks they have to pay the FULL rent for every week in excess of the allowed 4. For those who have paid their taxes for more than 50 years, like a lot of pensioners today - this could be construed as a form of discrimination.
There is also the small matter of the under-spend of £5 billion every year. How many of our pensioners leave their homes every year for prolonged overseas stays?Not only that but a leftover £5 billion (with interest) in the money markets should more than make-up for those going walk-about for a few extra weeks a year.
It also means that overnight those with families living abroad/Down Under have just had to find 150% more for their stay/tickets/insurance, etc.Sounds like another "bung" for the travel,hotel and insurance industry!
Not only that, but the families who live abroad are more than prepared to do their bit sharing in the care of their older family members and thereby saving the costs of medical and physical care in the UK. Added to which is the problem of unforeseen illness when abroad. If the airlines can help in re-arranging flights whatpolicy is in place for “absence without leave”.
So can you make sure in your publicity, facebook and your on-line pages to mention this as I have just spoken to a neighbour who is now afraid to book her mother to visit her brother to give her and her family some respite care and cannot do so until she can have solid confirmation that she wont be wasting her money later in the project.I am sure there are also many pensioners hoping to travel for a couple of months over the Christmas period.
Another piece of advice given out today, was that most of the applications for any type of benefit is that“you will have to apply on-line”. Another form of discrimination against older people who have had neither the opportunity to acquire these skills but are now totally confused, left behind or rely on a savy teenage grandchild to help.
From one pensioner who is about to wave their family off to New Zealand and probably wont be able to afford to visit them now - many thanks
hodie - 10-May-16 @ 8:08 PM
We are a new care home in Norwich. We have started adementia café and an over 60's social club running monthly. Please contact for further information.
Ivy Court - 28-Mar-16 @ 4:41 PM
Hello I'm in bristol and would love to join a club of anythingI know of a badminton club and swimmingbut want to know what else is about .any ideas from anyone please
Yve - 18-Mar-16 @ 11:16 AM
You left modell engineering societies out of your list. Do a quick search and you will find one near you.
brigandchief - 11-Feb-16 @ 3:19 PM
Married and looking to spend time with similar age folk.
Sailor - 2-Jan-16 @ 10:19 AM
I am a new retired Spanish & French teacher who recently moved to London. I have worked at the university in Paris, for 25 years.
I am looking for an educated person who wants to learn Spanish or French in exchange to English conversation. I would like improving my English.
I live near to New Cross.
Thank you for your help.